Playa Playa

Well, I have changed my dating strategy. I was originally feeling that I would like to "date with a purpose", which basically means, I do not want casual relationships, casual sex, etc.

I have found that dating this way is not easy at all. In fact, I think it will be a raging failure, so I have loosened the reigns.

I am now trying to relax a little about the whole thing. Instead of focusing on one guy at a time, fuck it! I will just keep a stable of possibilities. I have done it before and it works decently. The main issue is that men pretty much just HANG IN THERE until you give up the panties. sigh.
I have 2 guys most recently

** There is the guy who is from MS that sounds dumb as rocks when I talk to him. We had some amazing chemistry the first time we hung out. But after an unsavory conversation yesterday, (where I asked him a question and he got defensive), I am so turned off, I really don't care if we ever speak again. really.The thing is, when a man's conflict/resolution style is immature, I just can't hang. Not these days. Not now. I have no patience for the mundane arguements, especially when arguing with someone extremely below my intellectual level. It disgusts me. Like arguing with one of my children.

**Last night I hung out with a 25yr old who is from Sierra Leone and on track to get his Pharmacist degree. He was pretty direct about not wanting anything serious because he plans to attend grad school out of state within a year or so. His dreams include buying a house, then doing the wife and kids thing. He and I are not a match whatsoever in that regard, as my life is the opposite of that. I have the family and am now starting my education again! However, he may be a possibility for a cuddle buddy/casual affair, as he lives only a few blocks away, and clearly liked me. But someone please tell me.. what's up with people that CLANK TEETH with you when kissing?? So weird, and I don't know how to make it stop. LOL I liked him okay, but again, this is a guy that will just wait me out for sex. Its already obvious.

These are the 2 most recent points of interest in mission: Try to get a Life. They have broken up the monotony a little, so I'm cool with it. Sierra Leone guy has already made a future date for Saturday night. What I like about that guy is that he has some serious ambition, and has achieved a lot already. He has things to talk about. He seemed pretty forthcoming about his life and asked me a lot of direct questions, which seemed like he was fielding me to see where I fit into his rotation. Thats cool, cuz I was doing the same thing. I find that where I beat out my competition has everything to do with me being laid back about not chasing a guy, interrogating him, or emasculating him. I make it easy. I think i can maybe have some dating fun if I lose the expectations of everyone, and keep enough guys on the roster that I am entertained sufficiently without focusing on anyone. Yes, I know this is sortof a defeatest way to go about things, as I am succumbing to the ways of this world. I'm sure it's temporary. LOL